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Would you rather have the first word, or the last?

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Would you rather have the first word, or the last in an argument? Some people prefer to speak first, others insist they have the advantage only if they get in the last word. Where do you stand?

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  1. Choosing between who is right and who is wrong is the start of my problems. There doesn’t always have to be a win/lose situation, am more into making both parties get what they want, arguing is so much work anyway.

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  2. My first reaction when I saw the title was to think about The Last Word as in end of life. And in that case I believe that after all our ideas and musings and philosophies it will be God who has the last word.
    Come to think of it if we argue with Him He’s going to have the last word there too.

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  3. I would like to be at the last word. I do not choose to be the last because it is sort of asset, or super charismatic sounding rather because I’d like to experience the first and then speak the last within experienced words. Indeed, Experience can not be created, neither it can be made in fact the man has to go through certain moments that happens to him which results to be the experience.

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  4. My opinion on that has changed as I have gotten older. Being young and more sure of my answers, I liked having both but preferred the last. As age has mellowed and softened the harder edges, just having a friendly argument allows me to listen to the other point of view. Today, I would say first.

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  5. First or last doesn’t really matter. I typically won’t argue a point unless I’m sure that I’m right. That’s not to say I’ve never argued when I was wrong. That’s happened plenty of times, but as a rule, I won’t argue over something that I’m not sure enough to defend.

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  6. If its important, last word. If the other is impudent and not getting it, then I’ll leave it. More important is the first word, is it heard?

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  7. I’d like to have the first word. First impressions last. Besides, if you started badly, your audience might not be there to hear your last word.

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  8. i prefer the last, as i want to listen first to their point of view and try to analyze things before i made a comment and argue, and if we didnt come up to terms i stop.

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  9. I agree with Angus. God is going to have the last word in everything. Use to be I would want my opinion heard first; now I prefer to step back, pray about it and let God take care of it depending on what it is.

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  10. I would prefer to have the last word. Given that the last word is the last word and not just a fantasy. The reality is that people seldom get the last word, apart from examples like Gadhafi. The rebels got the last word while Gadhafi watched and listened.

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  11. The last word. Spoken loudly. And preferably some sort of witty, cutting remark that destroys the other person–my foe–and causes him or her to look upon me with fear when next we meet.

    And if no witty, cutting remark is available to me, I still prefer the last word . . . spoken with a Louisville Slugger.

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  12. I believe that if it is a worthy argument, having the courage to get the first word out there is huge. In the line of work that I am in, being around so many girls, it is sometimes tough to bring up issues carefully, and often times, even if it is a worthy argument, it gets left in the dust because of fear or hesitation. The last word, can always be thrown in even to just be stubborn, the content is the most important, and if worthy at all, the person who brought it up will most likely be remembered.

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  13. I stand neutral on this subject. If I have something to say I say it, And if I don’t, I listen and move on. There might have been a time in my life where the first or last word was important but at my age its really not important.

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  14. I prefer to start second and finish with the last word. For me it’s just logical and a good advantage, rather than be the one being responded to.

    I have an edge in listening to the argument and responding in a logical manner. People often think if you post the challenge in an argument, you have an upper-hand when in the contrary a sound logical reply is so much more stronger.

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  15. It depends what the subject of the arguments is about. With some arguments I’d rather stay out of it if at all possible. It doesn’t really matter whether I’m the first or the last, as long as everyone gets a fair hearing.

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