When is it ok to quit something?
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When is it ok to quit something?
Many cultures frown on people who give up on things. But is it ever good for everyone involved for someone to quit? Whether it’s a job, a relationship or a dream?
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When your head begins to bruised enough to need an icepack every day for a week. Mine is getting there as my efforts to swiitch to Word Press.org so I could start and Emotional Fitness Store meant I could no longer post on postaday. Trying to figure out how to be on both and getting some help from the Happiness Engineers, but they obviously have bigger fish to attend to. WARNING do not switch to WordPress.org keep your .com blog and create a separate blog for selling stuff. Wish I had known before I switched that I would lose the right to publish on postaday.
Sorry you are in a quandry. I don’t understand what you mean by “losing the right to publish on postaday.” While on postaday, you cannot post on any other blog? Hopefully the techs here can assist you soon.
When your integrity being compromised.
It serves no one to remain in a situation that is futile, self-esteem bashing and energy draining. They do exist. Allow that door to close so that opportunities will flow towards you. They do exist. Where would you rather be–where things are easy/ier and feel good or where you must struggle and feel bad? It can be a difficult choice for some to make at one time or another, regardless of how simple a concept it is.
A agree entirely. So often we get caught in situations that end up harming us, rather than building us up. It’s important to recognize when something is draining, rather than energizing and to learn to say no, even when it’s hard.
If you have a good reason. Sometimes it’s more like moving on, rather than quitting. I quit Architecture, but I think it was the better choice (we’ll see five years from now). I wrote a post about it here: http://pindsha21.wordpress.com/2011/08/14/im-failing-and-why-that-isnt-so-bad/
When you already tried everything you know but nothing works, that’s the time to quit. Like when solving an algebra problem, a statistics, calculus problem. When you are alone taking an exam and you already tried your best, but still nothing’s working, that’s the time you throw in the towel.
When is it okay? I’d have to say in a relationship. If it’s a bad one (obviously if it’s abusive, either mental or physical, but also if you’re just not compatible), it does no good to stick it out. Life’s too short to be miserable and to make everyone around you miserable. You have to think of your physical, emotional, and financial well-being and not care if you’re branded a quitter. If it sucks, pull the plug.
So timely. This topic will teach us so much about ourselves and others.
There comes a time when you have to let go, be it mundane things in the attic, a relationship, a dream, an ambition. But the hardest to let go of are your kids.
Quit when your heart tells you it is time. It’s not a defeat. In fact, you’ll so realize you did yourself a favor. In the end you won because you found happiness and inner peace. I know cause I experienced them on more than one occassion. No regrets, onlt bliss.
I always say when the season finishes / when the year is over. That was to the kids but I stayed in a marriage for 28 years and I really should have quit. I in fact stayed way past knock off time if it were a job and I got no extra rewards for this at all. Now I expect a tough email to wordpress.org I recently read all of that blurb etc! If it isn’t in the fine print then it is their problem and you have not made a mistake but an un-informed decision that’s all and it hurts! Decision making is taxing! Even little ones like blogging etc. It is your love and your love is being held from you! Quite unfair and cruel I think of them! EMAIL them IN CAPITALS! Hope it is fixed for you / If it is happening to you then I guarantee its happening to others as well!
Very deep, Mezza, very deep.
When you are flogging a dead horse.
I also read pindsha21′s blog and here’s my take on quitting. http://likeitiz.wordpress.com/2011/09/09/824/
When is it ok to quit something? Nice vague, broad question. Most people view those who quit as losers, failures, and quitters. The first things that came to my mind when I read this was: A) The something could be a negative thing or a positive thing. B) What were the factors that led the person to quit?
Now, if the “something” is negative, causing problems, or unhealthy, then of course I would think it would be okay for that person to quit. For example, the typical “negative” things that I consider alright to quit include: smoking, abusing alcohol or drugs, an unhealthy relationship, and an unwanted and hated job. I am sure there are other examples out there… but for right now, these will due.
Some people quit things they can no longer handle due to many reasons. For example, I am taking classes on-line. Yes, there has been several times where I just want to throw in the white towel and quit, but I trudge on. The reasons I feel like quitting are usually due to feeling overwhelmed, falling behind, and thinking about the OUTRAGEOUS amount of money I am spending to attend this university. Due to support from my family and friends, straightening out my thoughts, and reviewing my goals, I am still in classes.
So, when is it ok to quit something? I think this is a very personal and situational question. The pros and cons should be reviewed. Hopefully, there is a support system available to give advice towards this decision. Regardless, there usually are reasons for quitting something. MOST people do not enjoy being called a quitter or a failure. If it is pertaining to something harmful and negative, I believe the sooner one quits, the better. In those cases, they are considered winners, strong, brave, and survivors. Basically, quitting something is not always a bad thing.
I did the online route, so I understand your feelings about quitting. Glad you have support from your family to encourage you to stay on the path to your goals. It WILL be worth it. The sense of accomplishment will be a great reward too. Promise.
Goal is a dream whenever it is impossible to achive there no complicated just still go on and move on life is short and i think there is no hope in negative thinking, I always keep on my mind in this world i`m not alone.
When is it OK to quit something? As soon as you find yourself asking that question.
I agree!
100% Agreed!! Good point!
It’s okay to quit when you are no longer happy and no longer needed.
It is Ok to quit a thing if you have gave your best and its still not working.
Sometime we have to just walk away.
when it’s detrimental to your health http://spendpress.wordpress.com/2011/09/10/when-is-it-ok-to-quit-something/
You don’t quit….You do your absolutely best until you have nothing left to give.
Quit when there is nothing to achieve.
Quit when it’s no longer healthy.
Quit when closing that door opens another.
http://postadaychallenge2011.com/2011/09/10/weekly-photo-challenge-textured/
It is advisable to give something up when it is no longer beneficial or enjoyable or when it is bad for our well-being.
By “some cultures frown on it” I presume you mean apostasy? Yes, leaving the religion of one’s parents may bring shame on the family but to those of us shed those shackles it is a liberation.
Quitting is not bad when you know there is nothing more you can do., you have done your 110% and if you to stay then it is waste of time…
There are times when it is necessary to quite on something. When you find the situation you are in is only going to hurt you if you stay in it then by all means get out of it. If you are working on a project that doesn’t seem to be working, you have to ask yourself why. If you have given it your best and it isn’t working then give it up and move on to the next one. You might at some point come back to the project with a fresh prostective and figure out what was going wrong. It could be something that just didn’t work in the first place.
When you actually progress more and get further by letting go.
It’s okay to quit an abusive situation. Quit smoking, drinking, drugs. Quit that coward that treats you like a personal punching bag. It’s not really quitting; it’s saving your life.
I fell there’s a limit for everything, and there has to be an end if the line of control or the limit has been broken into. Sometimes quitting is for one’s own good. Check out my blog: http://rohitsinghjain.blogspot.com/
Its depends on the way you read this question. Generally we never quit in our endeavors no matter how many deterrents appear along the way how ever as pointed out earlier in a few comments we must know when to quit smoking or alcoholism or any such vice before they get the better of us.
I am reading a book and posting about teh chapter I am reading every day
http://dd16591569.wordpress.com/2011/09/11/you-are-great-as-great-as-an-apple-week1-day4/
it is okay to quit on something when you are no longer happy, you are no longer enjoying the things you used to enjoy, when you are no longer productive and when you know you have a “heavy shoulder”….
YOU QUIT WHEN “THE OVATION IS LOUDEST”.BUT,IN SOME SITUATIONS,THIS SHOULD NOT BE THE CASE.SO MANY PEOPLE QUIT,JUST WHEN THEY ARE ALMOST “GETTING THERE”.IN ALL ENDEAVOURS,PERSEVERANCE SHOULD BE THE GUIDING PRINCIPLE.”HE WHO LAUGHS LAST,LAUGHS BEST”.SUCCESS COMES TO THOSE WHO PERSEVERE TILL THE END.MANY OF LIFE’S FAILURES ARE THOSE WHO QUIT WHEN THEY ARE ACTUALLY UNAWARE ABOUT THE SUCCESS,WAITING FOR THEM TO BE PLUCKED.QUITTERS NEVER WIN,AND WINNERS NEVER QUIT.NO ONE ACHIEVES SUCCESS ON A PLATTER OF GOLD!
There should never be a time to quit, especially when all odds are against you. As long as it is your God given passion, keep at it. You can read more of this in my blog :Never say die @ http://www.lildamey.wordpress.com
When it’s doing you more harm than good
I agree with bridetobe79.
I also think that dreams are what maintain us connected to our soul, to who we are. So my advice would be don’t give up.
I believe that happiness is one of the most important things in life. If you are no longer happy doing what you are doing then I think it is okay to quit. Yeah, some people may see that as failure or be disappointed, but in the end it’s your happiness and not theirs. You can’t let other people dictate your life forever or you will never achieve true happiness.
Quiting,as been generally viewed/labelled negatively.A higher percentage of folks views is as a literary word for weaklings and failures in life.Frankly speaking it has to do with our individual capabilities and circumstances surrounding us at ????e point in time.For instance,It’s seems difficult giving up some habits like smoking,alcoholism,randy sexual acts,gossip,stealing ????e list is endless while to some is a matter of time to rid of it.????e best time to throw in ????e towel is when you are done with it all;like a girlfriend cheating on you-no matter ????e extent of love she has compromised hence,i walk away,i was once a chain smoker ????e day i got to realise how much ‘chemo’-treatment for managing cancer would cause me and ????e pains attached to it;i don’t need a phychriatrist for me to give it up.Measure ????e pros and cons on ????e balance scale for YOU to know if its time to QUIT.
Here you go, my “Opgeven is altijd een keuze”
http://www.wiggersrobert.nl/2011/10/opgeven-is-altijd-een-keuze/
I gave up, when living there meant it was wrong for me, my kids and my soul http://wickedstepmum.com/no-one-has-the-right-to-judge/
when you realize that it’s not really meant for you. better to save energy in aiming for another
http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2011/09/09/when-is-it-ok-to-quit-something/
http://wp.me/sfgmC-quit